COUPLes therapy

One of my main passions is providing couples therapy. I thoroughly enjoy working together with couples on increasing awareness around relational patterns,  deepening intimacy, tolerating and celebrating differences and also providing support with endings if couples need it.

Our attachments patterns tend to be aggravated by those close to us, especially our intimate partner. Understanding these patterns and how they activate and provoke each other within the relationship is a big part of the exploration. The work also often tends to be about finding a balance between the desire to merge and the desire to differentiate. Working between these two poles can provide a wealth of wisdom, re-balancing and revitalising a couple’s energy.

What to expect from our first session: The time will be focused on exploring what it is you'd like to get out of therapy - you and your partner's expectations and hopes. I'll also want to get some background information about you both, your current support system and some facts about your childhood. We'll talk more deeply about how I work and whether we would be the right fit. It really is important to find someone you resonate with, where you have a strong sense of: 'yes this person can help us'. This session should give you the answer to that and I encourage people to ask as many questions as they would like to. 

How I work: Working from a Gestalt perspective means I focus on the here-and-now in order to explore and understand what patterns may be stopping you from experiencing yourselves and each other in a more meaningful and fulfilling way. I work relationally, meaning I bring how I am experiencing and relating to you into the session. In this way we can build trust and connection and which allows us to explore and understand the dynamics between your more deeply. Often this leads us to looking at childhood patterns which are being repeated in your adult relationship. Understanding and reassessing the need for these patterns helps us to understand and redefine the way you relate to one another, giving you the tools to embrace change and work towards a more fulfilling and balanced relationship. 

It is amazing how often just having someone witness a relationship dynamic can bring about huge understanding and shifts. A big part of my work is to provide this witnessing, alongside guiding, mirroring, and becoming familiar with and unknotting stubborn patterns.

Each couples session is 90 minutes. I provide both short term and long term therapy.